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Facebook responsible for Divorce?

May 19th, 2011 • Related • Filed Under
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In a recent edition of Leadership Magazine Reverend Cedric Miller claims that Facebook is responsible for the Divorce’s that are occurring in his congregation.  Can we really blame a social media resource for the decisions that our people are making?  Facebook never steps out and says cheat on your spouse.

As the church continues to connect and understand culture we have to engage our people in how to handle themselves and deal with sin in their lives.  One of the groups that I think has made huge waves in our churches over the last 10 years are the guys over at XXX Church.  They have come on the scene and have worked hard to help individuals deal with the reasons they are turning to porn.  Porn is wrong on many levels and is not acceptable from a sin perspective.  However, we can’t look at porn and go you are the reason for destroying my family.  No, individuals make decisions and they are responsible for the decisions that they have made.

When it comes to Facebook we need to help people understand how they use it and the effects of it on their lives.  Not just from a marriage perspective but from a life perspective.  We have to start holding our people responsible for their own actions and start calling sin, sin.

I think that many people need to learn how to use Facebook effectively and understand the effects that it can have on their family and professional life.  But we should never blame sin on anything other than the individual who has made the choice to sin.

What are your thoughts on Facebook being responsible for Divorce?

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  • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

     I definitely think there is some connection. I think that it provides another form of secrecy and a chance to hide things. But that can happen anywhere. 

  • Anonymous

    I agree that it can create a secret space.  Which is one of the primary reasons that I don’t friend women on my facebook account.  However, is it not time that we start calling sin – sin and start holding people responsible for the actions they have taken?  Instead of blaming it on a medium or someone else.

  • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

    yes there has to be some accountability. But just like anything else, people want to find someone else to blame 

  • bnall

    Like money, food, sex, music, tv, etc., facebook is not an evil in and of itself.  Facebook doesn’t make decisions for people.  It may be just one more aspect that has to be controlled, but it is certainly not the cause of anything.

  • Steve

    Good point; fb is not responsible for divorce.  It is important to set limits in the use of fb, however; limits that will keep you from moving into a relationship that would be destructive to a family–yours or another’s. 

  • Anonymous

    Steve,

    Thanks for the comments.  Aaron Chambers wrote a blog some time back to his ministry friends who are or have cheated on their wives.  It is really good.  Check it out here – http://mylordandmyblog.wordpress.com/2010/10/25/on-open-letter-to-my-married-male-friends-in-ministry-who-have-cheated-on-their-wives-or-are-flirting-with-cheating-on-their-wives/

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